Don’t accept insecurities

In a time like this when social media is at the center of everything we do. It not only makes us seem narcissistic, but, it also gives us a higher value of self. Post a picture and get thousands of likes and views, that can have you feeling like you’re the best thing since slice bread. Yes we love the likes and the praise, but what about the negative comments how should we deal with the negative comments?

How do we deal with the negative comments not just on social media? But in general. Sometimes the negativity are other people’s way of expressing their insecurities. Quite often, people have the tendency to project their feelings unto others. If you are lucky, you may receive some positive energy from their projections, but if not, it’s fear, insecurity, anger, resentment and a whole host of negativity that will be projected unto you.

A lot of times people say that what others say or think about them doesn’t matter. It really shouldn’t matter but, the reality is that, what people have to say about you matters. This is true unless you have really created a mindset that rejects outside opinions. This is possible only with a very strong self confidence and a strong belief in yourself and knowing who you are. ” word is wind” I used to hear that a lot when I was growing up. It was later on in life that I realized that words can be very heavy and that it has the power to weigh you down. Sometimes no matter how strong of a person you are, there are some words that will play on your insecurities. Yes, everyone has insecurities, sometimes small and sometimes big. One of the things that I have realized, is that people can only relate to you based on what they know and how they feel about a situation. So if you share something that you want to do with someone and they have insecurities about that situation; then it is only natural, that they are going to project their feelings unto to you. It is up to you to know that someone else’s feelings or thoughts are not yours. Do not allow yourself to accept anybody’s insecurities as your own reason for failure.

live for you, don’t be held back by the insecurities of others . Make your own mistakes and learn from them.

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Changing your mindset

I can’t believe how fast the year is going, last time I spoke about kindness. Today let’s look at how to change our mindset to being positive and optimistic. Your mindset is what creates your perception, if control the way you think, then your actions will somehow manifest what’s in the mind. If you constantly have negative thoughts and a mind of doubt, then believe it or not that’s what you are going to reap. Set your mind to be nothing but positive, tell yourself self that being positive is the only option you have. Do not create a space for doubt or failure in your mind, then the only option you have is to win, to succeed and to be great.

Here are a few quotes that speaks about changing your mindset:

To create something exceptional, your mindset must be relentlessly focused on the smallest detail.

Georgio Armani

Common sense would suggest that having ability, like being smart, inspires confidence. It does but only while the going is easy. The deciding factor in life is how you handle setbacks and challenges. People with a growth mindset welcome setbacks with open arms.

Travis Bradberry

No Matter what, people grow. If you choose not to grow, you’re staying in a small box with a small mindset. People who win go outside that box. It’s very simple when you look at it.

Kevin Hart

The mind is just like a muscle, the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets and the more it can expand.

Idowu Koyenikan

It is hard to fail, but it is worst never to have tried to succeed.

Theodore Roosevelt

Anything is possible if you have the mindset and the will and the desire to put the time in.

Roger Clemens

Eliminate the mindset of can’t, because you can do anything.

Tony Horton

Your positive mindset, gives you a more hopeful outlook, when you believe that you can do something great, it means that you will do something great.

Russell Wilson

If you don’t give anything, don’t expect anything. Success is not coming to you. You must come to it.

Marva Collins

Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do, than by the things that you did do. So sail away from the safe harbor explore, dream, discover.

Mark Twain

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10 inspirational quotes about kindness

One of the things that warms my heart is kindness. Any form of kindness brings me joy, sometimes it’s as simple as someone saying good morning or someone holding a door for me, no matter what it is. I get joy from people showing that they care even just a little. In a world where people can be so mean, I think it is important that I, or we appreciate everything little act of kindness. Even though Scott Adams believes that no act of kindness is little, sometimes it’s just the smallest gesture that can make a difference. Here are a few quotes about kindness, hopefully these will inspire you to make a difference in someone’s life by being kind.

He who sows courtesy reaps friendship and he who plants kindness gathers love.

St. Basil

Remember there is no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.

Scott Adams

Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.

Mark Twain

A warm smile is the universal language of kindness.

William Arthur Ward

Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day, someone might do the same for you.

Princess Diana

Do things for people not because of who they are, or what they do in return, but because of who you are.

Harold S. Kushner

What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?

Jean Jacques Rousseau

Kindness begins with the understanding that we all struggle.

Charles Glassman

Kindness is like snow, it beautifies everything it covers.

Kahlil Gibran

Kindness is more important than wisdom and the recognition of this, is the beginning of wisdom.

Theodore Isaac Rubin

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10 powerful and inspirational quotes by Marcus Garvey

As you already know, I use a lot of quotes from influential people to guide me through life. As a Jamaican I could not allow the month of August to end without paying tribute to one of Jamaica’s national heroes Marcus Garvey. His work has been a tremendous inspiration to many over the years and is still relevant today. Take minute to explore some of his words below and how much they still relate to us today.

“Take advantage of every opportunity; where there is none, make it for yourself.”

” If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life.”

” With confidence, you have won before you have started.”

” There is no force like success, and that is why the individual makes all effort to surround himself throughout life with the evidence of it.

“Liberate the minds of men and ultimately you will liberate the bodies of men.”

” We must give up the silly idea of folding our hands and waiting on God to do everything for us. If God had intended for that, then he wouldn’t have given us a mind. Whatever you want in life, you must make up your mind to do it for yourself.”

“Always try to associate with people, from whom you can learn something. All the knowledge that you want is in the world and all you have to do is seek it.

” The man who is not able to develop and use his mind, is bound to be the slave of the other man who uses his mind.”

“Ambition is the desire to go forward and improve one’s condition. It is a burning flame that lights up the life of the individual and makes him see himself in another state. To be ambitious is to be great in the mind and soul. To want that which is worthwhile and strive for it. To go on without looking back, reaching to that which gives satisfaction.”

“I trust that you will so live today as to realize, that you are masters of your fate; if there is anything you want in this world, it is for you to strike out with confidence and faith in self and reach for it.”

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Choose your reaction

Just a little pick me up, read this story about this dad and his daughter and leave your thoughts below.

Your reaction matters more than what happens to you

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.

He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the boiled eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?”

“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied.

“Look closer,” he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.

However, each one reacted differently.

The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

“Which are you,” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean? “

My thoughts

It’s always ok to reinvent, reset, refocus or however you choose to define your do overs. No one situation can define you, if it is not working one way try another. One plan fails, just make a new one, don’t stay down when adversity knocks you down. Get up, dust yourself off and try again, always keep going.

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Is being rich important?

This is something I know nothing about, because I am not rich. However the goal is to be rich. Leave a comment below if you think that striving to be rich is important. My goal is to be successful and comfortable enough to do the things I want and to give my son the kind of life I only dreamt about as a child. As cliche as that sounds, it is my goal. So this leads to the question is being rich important? Or should I say, is trying to be rich important?

Yes of course money can’t buy you everything. There are certain things that money just won’t get you, regardless of how much you have. Hey, but with enough money you can create situations that will bring you those things. Hear me out, let’s say for example, taking a vacation. The ideal vacation usually provides relaxation and fun and everything that is peachy. Listen, I’m not saying that you need to be rich to take a vacation, but I’m just subscribing to the fact that money does play a role in providing happiness.

A lot a people live their entire life without ever being rich and yet they are content. But, is being rich such a bad thing? Or is striving to get there wrong? Hell no, A lot of people also spend their entire life trying to be rich and there is absolutely nothing wrong with both way of life.

When it’s all said and done, it really boils down to each individual. For me I’d say yes being rich is important. I’m not rich now, but you best believe, “I’m gonna die trying.”

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Quick motivation

Hey you, yes you, you are much stronger than you think, you’ve got this, yes you can do it. Whatever you are going through, whatever thoughts are holding you back. Push them to the side and continue on your journey. Believe in yourself, you have more strength than a lion, just keep going you will get there.

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