Stop worrying about what others think of you

It is very normal to want to be liked and accepted by others. Everyone at some point, wonders what others have to say about them. ( that’s if we are being honest) worrying about another person’s thoughts of you is definitely one of the surest ways to doubt yourself and of course be unhappy.

The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with your self.” Mark Twain

Imagine if we were to do things, just so that the people in our lives can be pleased with us. Now I’m not saying that you are to be selfish and heartless. I am talking about the “negative Nancy” that is always telling you that you should have done it the other way. I’m sure we all know one of those. Oh yes we have to care about the image we put out there, but at the same time don’t make it be about what others want for you. It should be about you and what you choose for yourself.

There is really no need to worry about what others think of you. When you think about it, no one is perfect, so everyone ( whether we like to admit it or not) has their own little insecurities that they deal with. If we look at things from this standpoint, it’s easier for us to worry less ( because we all have own issues).

One of the things we need to realize, is that what someone else think of us, is not who we are. They are not defining us. Only you can define who you are. It’s unfortunate that we have been socialized in such a way that teaches us to aim to be accepted by others. However, this is a cycle that has to the torn down and ripped apart. We have to start living for us, not for the next person.

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